My Asian-American Identity Crisis

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霜夜 彬
霜夜 彬 - Hour ago
My identity crisis doesn't really have to do with language, because I can speak and read Chinese fine. It is more about traditional values. As much as I hate them, I kind of have them ingrained in me. Some examples: money and status is equivalent to happiness. It's not even for self reasons - it is more about how you think others view or think of you. My mom kind of competes with her siblings to see who's son is dating, who is working, who went to a good school, who owns the most property. Boys are supposed to act a certain way. They have to make enough money to support a family. Girls can just be pretty and do decent in school. The eldest son is supposed to inherit everything. If the younger sibling screws up, its on him. Blah blah blah.
霜夜 彬
霜夜 彬 - Hour ago
What do you do when random people from across the street scream NI HAO at you? I had this happen to me a few times in my life.
AirheadAce - Hour ago
oh i want to be Korean ... oh my gosh we are opposites.
Yeeeeeeeeeeees I relate too much to this! TT_TT My mom has always been pushing me to learn Polish for God knows how long, all of our relatives despite living in Canada almost exclusively speak in Polish, so even when I'm not in Poland I'm still reminded of my monolingual obstacles. I have absolutely refused to learn Polish for the longest time because of this and once even tried yeeting my Polish heritage for a Japanese one cause I'm a weeb. I've only started learning Polish just recently and even now its still hard to find the motivation to learn it recently, especially when I live in the GTA, which is packed with tons of other cultures that just seem soooooo much more interesting!
Segev Stormlord
Segev Stormlord - Hour ago
It is funny how parents will ask, "Why aren't you doing more of this thing we gave you no opportunities to do? When I was your age and things were completely different for me, I was doing those things, so you should have no trouble with that!"
Out of curiosity, were you fluent in Korean in 4th grade? I know that varies from family to family with kids born here whose parents are from another linguistic culture. Given the context already provided, I can see why you wouldn't want to "introduce [your classmates] to a different culture," especially if you didn't, yourself, listen to that kind of music. It stereotypes you when you don't identify with nor conform to the stereotype. (I could be reading it wrong, though, and you DID listen to that and identified with it, but just thought it'd be weird in the context of the show-and-tell, which I also understand completely. Though, *cough* I've always been the sort to not care and be happy to share stuff even if others might find it weird. ...which is probably part of why I was The Unpopular Kid all the way through sophomore year of college.)
I kinda wonder if the teacher's "stern lecture" about "embracing other cultures" was helpful. Kids don't like being scolded any more than adults do, and it might have been more effective to ask them, instead, how they'd like it if they took their CD to Korea and had people laughing at the English on it. Then explaining about how music is different all over the world, maybe with a homework assignment to find a sample of music from another country. (That might be a bit much for 4th grade in 2005; I don't remember how widespread YouTube and the like were yet.)
Personally, when I meet somebody of "foreign" appearance who speaks English fluently/without non-American accent, I tend to assume, "Ah, grew up here." As a kid, it didn't even occur to me that the Asian kids in my classes should have an accent any more than the black kids. (I can't comment on Hispanic or other ethnicities; I genuinely have trouble telling Hispanics apart from whites unless they're actually exhibiting cultural or linguistic traits that point to other nationalities. Heck, I thought Halle Berry was white for the longest time, despite her having played Storm, because I consistently forget that Storm is technically a black character.) Thus, I have to ask: when people DO comment on your lack of accent, is it out of the blue, or is there some reason they might expect, beyond your appearance, that you're not native-born American? Not asking to prove/disprove anything, but just because I like to try to figure out what people's thought processes are.
Receptive vs. communicative language is a fascinating subject, too. That you could understand them enough to converse clearly but didn't feel comfortable responding in Korean to their Korean is fascinating, because it means you can legitimately have a Star Wars-like conversation where both sides understand each other but are speaking their own language! What very little Spanish fluency I managed in High School always had me instinctively trying to respond in Spanish when somebody said something I understood in Spanish, so I had thought it would be tough to do the transliteration and response in a different tongue.
While I understand the lady's comment about "that's a shame" - it's related to sympathizing with what she perceives to be your father's point of view, and to a sense of cultural heritage - it is pretty thoughtless of her, for much the reason you outline. I actually think that's closer to a legitimate "microaggression" than innocent kid-questions about "difficulty seeing" or cultural rumors, simply because as an adult she should know a bit better and she's actually passing a value judgment (no matter how well-intentioned) rather than simply asking a question or expressing surprise at realizing one of her biases or other expectations was incorrect. (Think about it: without people being surprised when a bias is undermined, they may never even realize they have the bias, let alone get over it.)
I think adults telling kids how great they're doing when the kids aren't actually living up to that praise is really harmful. Kids aren't dumb. They know how they're doing. If they're GENUINELY expecting too much of themselves, tell them so, and give a more thorough evaluation to tell them how to improve, and they might actually accept your praise; give out glowing praise as a participation trophy, though, and all you've done is devalue the praise. They know you're lying. They know the participation trophy is a dirty, stinking, rotten lie. It doesn't make them feel better. Heck, in my case, that kind of nonsense made me ANGRIER than just losing/not succeeding/underperforming, because it meant that they were telling me I was incapable of doing better. At least, to me. I never have dealt with my own failures well, and being told I did "great" when I know better did the opposite of helping.
All of which is to say: I sympathize with your irritation at being told you've improved at something you know you're still struggling with. (Out of curiosity, what does the one phrase you knew how to say mean? And do you think you said it smoothly and unaccented, or would a native Korean-speaker recognize you as having a heavy American accent? I genuinely don't know enough to tell.)
I *will* say it's a shame you convinced yourself you hated all things Korean. Both because of cultural heritage reasons (it barred you from connecting to your extended family) and because it clearly made you less happy. This is NOT saying that it's a shame because you should live to anybody's expectations, but just because it seems like it got in your way rather than being liberating. It sounds, from this video's tone so far, like you've gotten over that, but I'll wait and see. (I'm writing this comment as I go, sorry. ...that's also probably contributing to its essay-like length. ...sorry again.)
With Alice... I'm guessing you could understand her, but not respond in a language she understood. Is that correct? ...maybe not, if you didn't understand the K-Pop music. That makes me very curious how you understood your parents speaking Korean to you enough to respond in English, but not the K-Pop. Were they not speaking at normal conversational speeds? (I have found, in what little comparisons I've done, that English is a very slow language in terms of speaking speed compared to others. When I was learning Spanish, I never could follow a telenovela or even a dubbed Disney movie, and anybody I spoke to who was fluent had to slow way down and enunciate for me to pick up their words. English is just spoken way slower, for some reason.)
I, too, would be fascinated to know if there is something cultural you're doing that sets you apart in Korea just walking down the street. I love your oldest brother's solution: stare back until it's uncomfortable is SUPER-American, but also very fitting (at least to this American's mindset).
And while "get better at Korean" is an OBVIOUS solution to the language barrier, I wouldn't call it the "easy" solution. Learning languages is HARD. ...if you'd like entirely unsolicited advice, you speak more Korean than I do Japanese, I'm sure, but I picked up almost all I know from watching subtitled anime. I am only at the, "Wait, that's not what they actually said..." stage of it, but maybe if you can find Korean shows with subtitles that you like, you can get better with it? Or some manwha (did I spell that right?) in its raw Korean form, since you do read, with a dictionary nearby. It'll feel less like studying, and you'll build on what you know. Plus, "being bilingual is cool," and getting it from watching/reading entertainment will keep in mind why you think it's cool: it opens doors.
On your endcard point... it may seem weird that a white male growing up in America could sympathize, but... everybody has things about themselves that are unique, and thus out of step with those around them. I deleted a thing that went into ... sociopolitical movements ... but suffice it to say, I have sympathy and do understand. Personally, I'm comfortable with who I am these days, but it took until college to get that way, and it wasn't until at least junior or senior year that I really fully developed the thicker skin that I have today. Even now, sometimes, I find myself frustrated that I'm not living up to my own image of who I should be, and I think that's similar to what you're experiencing, just with a slightly different motivation. It's great that you want to learn more about your family history and cultural heritage, and I hope it goes well for you! Learning about other cultures is fun and interesting, and whatever you have to connect them to you in a relevant way only makes it moreso.
Me: watches jappeneese anime's
My dad: do you even understand that?
me: no

Also me: wants to learn Jappeneese

ALSO MEE: Doesn't know how to learn jappeneese-
FNAF BLAST - 2 hours ago
What anime is that I love annime
Sophie Lane
Sophie Lane - 2 hours ago
I don't think you'll see this but...
I honestly know how you feel I'm half French and half English and both my parents are flunet in French and English. I'm not fluent in French and I've heard over a billion times "that's a shame" and honestly it hurts.
But watching this made me feel such a relief, thank you for putting this video out I need to know I'm not alone.
Maisey Lim
Maisey Lim - 2 hours ago
I'm so much different than you I'm biracial and only half Korean and half white I want to be more Korean and you want to be more white. But I was raised white with an Asian-American dad and a white mom so I have no say in my culture and I would never be welcomed into Korea
Cashyboy!!! Suprême
Cashyboy!!! Suprême - 2 hours ago
Tell me about It. I'm litterally the same like you but my language is different.
Bastian Rimbach
Bastian Rimbach - 2 hours ago
Hi Emirichu
Moonlight puzzle
Moonlight puzzle - 2 hours ago
XD I’m Hispanic
Emie Verbeelding
Emie Verbeelding - 2 hours ago
I can relate, I'm half Laotian and half European. And I'm almost leaving teenage hood and my Laotian skills can barely (not at all) handle a conversation (I can't understand anything). x)
When I was born, my mom talked to me in Lao, I was bilingual (yeah, pretty cool, huh?). But, one day, when as she came to pick me up at the kindergarten, I started speaking to my caretaker in Lao (unfortunately, she didn't understand a single world. According to my mom, I was asking for my gloves). Realizing a 2-year-old Child could not make the difference between two different language and because she could not write in Lao (she travelled to Austria before she could), she decided to stop talking to me in Lao, deciding I should have one and unique mother tongue on which I could rely not some kind of hazardous one.

I kind of hold a small grudge against her for years, until I was in 6th grade actually. But on the other hand I wasn't really trying to learn too. But as time passed, I started to forget all about it. I was less and less interested in my Asian part.

I focused on my studies, friends, and all kind of diverse subjects. I got interested in all types of foreign cultures, and started to want to learn their language from Dutch to Columbian or Japanese. I was curious about all country except the one my mom came from. About two or three years later, my interest in foreign things began to decrease.

And this year, I don't know why (thanks to YouTube I guess), I started following the channel of a half Japanese who got to learn Japanese when he was little. Then, YouTube's algorithm, realizing I was not bored by Asian topics, led me to a Korean focused channel. It was at this exact same time that there was the lockdown. Getting bored with my math, I decided to start to learn a language and because I got pretty excited by Korea, I focused on Korean. I learned like six letters and how to say 100 (yeah, I'll go far with that). In the meantime, I convinced myself to listen to K-pop, if it was that popular, surely it should be good. And under one of TWICE's music, I read the comment of a half Korean. She explained that she wasn't interested at all in her origins until one of a friend showed her K-pop, then she started to speak Korean with her mother, and to reconnect with her roots. This was some kind of trigger. I thought about it for ten minutes, and I decided to talk to my mom. I told her about how I wanted to discover where she grew up, her language, and everything about Laos.

Today, well we are like one or two months since I started to learn Lao (well the alphabet, I barely began the vocabulary). I'm going really slowly but each time, it's some kind of satisfaction. I feel like I should do it before all of my older relatives (especially, my grandmother) disappear and most of all, for me. ^^
Jay - 2 hours ago
Not Mexican enough but also not American enough but I’m DEPRESSED ENOUGH
Issthefeds Beepboop
Issthefeds Beepboop - 2 hours ago
My mom is Mexican and My dad is black and I understand Spanish more then I speak it and all my family on my moms said speak Spanish and I’m just here like 👁👄👁
Spanu - 2 hours ago
emi: "here's a well done gunny yet deep video about my bicultural problems, i spent time on it and it's very important to me and..."
me: "eheh, mulan refence such laghfter"
EngorgedPotatoFry - 2 hours ago
This is the same thing that happened to me
Mimipop - 2 hours ago
When your half Mexican and half Persian but grow up for 10 years of your life in a mainly Hispanic neighborhood then suddenly move to a place that's mainly white. And your relatives ask why you dont speak Spanish or farsi. Yet subconsciously you learn bits of Korean and Japanese without even meaning to just from listening to kpop and watching kdramas and watching anime and listening to jpop. I really need help on getting more in tune with my culture... I'm all over the place. But I have never gotten the comment that I speak English really well mainly because I have a weird accent from who knows where that most people say it sounds British with a mixture of other stuff...
Owen Roberts
Owen Roberts - 3 hours ago
I had to learn french and I had the same sort of issue with not being interested in it so it was very difficult. I am actually German and would love to learn the language even if it is hard. At least it is close to my history even if none of my family now doesn't live there.
LAUREN LEE - 3 hours ago
As a korean I get the question "Are you from North or South Korea" and I-. also I can't speak korean so my Grandparents are like "i thought you could speak it what's wrong" and I can relate so hard to the 'I was scared I would mess up'. Also before K-pop was a thing I was asked "Are you Japanese or Chinese" like the rest of Asia doesn't exist. AND MY DAD IS A KOREAN PASTOR AND MY FRIEND AND HER FRIENDS ARE LIKE WAY MORE KOREAN THAN ME. MY MOM WAS ALSO LIKE, "지민, you know ___ (my mom's white friend's kid) learned korean with k-drama. You do that too!" spoiler, I still can't speak it well. I can relate to every thing you said. My cousin on my mom's side (dad's side grew up in america mom's didn't) only speaks korean. I relate way too hard. Also my korean name is the same as some dude from bts (idk his last name cause i don't listen to k-pop but mine is lee) so I get the "Are you named after him?"
Jasmin - 3 hours ago
me, vibing on a cruise ship elevator and talking to my younger cousin in chinese: Don't touch the carpet, it's dirt-
random girl in the elevator: Wow, you speak such good english!
Her friend: PFT-
me: -.-
Astral_Playz - 3 hours ago
I feel this whole story. I understand Korean and barely cant speak it. I dont look korean at all, and all of my cousins look very different they have all of feature that I dont. And people think I lie about being korean, this girl saw me with hulmani and she was like "YOUR KOREAN WTH?" And that still hurts that she thought I was lying.
Shiro - 3 hours ago
Same thing with me! I appreciate this video because I am going through the same thoughts and feelings. Both my parents, grandparents, etc were born in Nicaragua, but then my parents moved to America were I was born along with my older sister. We both grew up learning English and Spanish but enjoyed speaking English more, resulting in both of us knowing nothing about Spanish. This was even more of a problem because at school mandatory Spanish class was a thing. Even though I tried to learn all I could do was say Spanish colors. My parents would often speak Spanish in our household while both me and my sister would speak and respond in English. Then, my brothers were born.... And from then on my parents only spoke Spanish, leaving me and my sister to stay in our rooms as much as possible. Not only that, but my grandparents moved to America before most of this, so we often visited them, and all I could say was that school was good, I was doing good, and that was it. At that point I just wanted to never be associated with my culture, even when I tried to understand it. The only thing that kept me somewhat connected was food. I love food, and I genuinely enjoyed eating Spanish food more than anything. I don't need to be Spanish, and that's what I want my parents to understand, and thankfully they do. Despite how detached I am from my culture, my family understands that EVERYONE IN MY FAMILY LOVES FOOD!
Chan World52
Chan World52 - 3 hours ago
I speak English wery good unlike my writing seen if my language isn't English also I have a class that LOVES Korean music mostly girls.
Skipper - 3 hours ago
I’m a half white half Portuguese man and, people think I’m Mexican because my skin dark af
Mr. BullFishy Playz
Mr. BullFishy Playz - 3 hours ago
I understand your struggles. It turns out that u never want to be the whitest asian in the room.
Dandere 0-0
Dandere 0-0 - 3 hours ago
I'm Filipino. I live in Germany. I just can speak German and English. I just understand Tagalog. I'm just like you.
Joel Bennett
Joel Bennett - 3 hours ago
I'm dark skin (black) person i always kind of disliked it cause people would say being light skin is better so i always felt like i wasn't good enough. I know it isn't the same
老咩 - 3 hours ago
3:20 ZERO
老咩 - 3 hours ago
1:40 Different country, same mom...
Zara Rouf
Zara Rouf - 3 hours ago
I was born in The United Arab Emirates but my mum’s from Pakistan and my dad’s from India, Ik it’s weird.. but it’s what I got. My dad speaks Kashmiri and my mom speaks Urdu. I feel embarrassed about my culture, mainly because “Indians” was just a joke at my primary school it was pretty common and I was teased about it... Many people were shocked I wasn’t just born in an English country because my accent was..well nothing..I didn’t sound like my parents or my friends I just sound..*deep*. Anyway, I can understand Urdu SPOT ON but I just embarass myself in front of my grandparents and relatives when I spoke Urdu, my pronouns were mixed up and I’d state an adult the way I’d state a child...I just felt cousins spoke perfectly so I felt quite left out. My parents were fine with my brother because he is quite young but I don’t think that’s fair. Another thing is how my parents say “well, why don’t you have many Indian friends?”. Excuse me mom and dad but I don’t l like my culture. Many of the Indian girls in my grade had the accent, the passion of stuff like “cultural dance” and they would speak Hindi. (Urdu is like Hindi btw) I just felt weird around them because I understood and all the Indians proud kinda stuck together.
Brian Tran
Brian Tran - 3 hours ago
I’m Asian too and I have that thing when my accent is well on English and not Asian. I do get insulted cause I’m Asian but I sometimes don’t mind.
cringey_potatooo ;-; :3
cringey_potatooo ;-; :3 - 4 hours ago
For me its kinda hard b i moved to germany when i was 8 and even tho i hate german i talk more german than my langueg bc i am still in school and i only speak my langueg with my parents with almost everyone else i speak english, so i am trilanguel at 11years old and next year i am gonna have to learn french so its gonna be a crazy expirence for me
TY TE - 4 hours ago
There only mbey be like 2 or 3 kids in class that like kpop
S!nc3r3lv - 4 hours ago
Me: is white
Everyone: sO u OwN sLaVeS?? YoU hAtE bLaCk pPl????
Katsuki Bakugou
Katsuki Bakugou - 4 hours ago
Me: Mixed; half Hispanic and half black
Friends: You white?
Waddles 360
Waddles 360 - 4 hours ago
If I was your friend back then I would be "Your so cool I'm just American and half German so I get insulted so it's cool you have a Korean side"
pegao - 4 hours ago
This reminds me a little of my childhood. I understood Spanish but could not speak it at all. It took a conscious effort on my part to learn it as a teen and adult.
Chai Tea
Chai Tea - 4 hours ago
Me, half-Hispanic half-Caucasian:
One of my best friends: You Arabian??
Me: 😐 ..No..
Me: 😐😯😐 *Inhales deeply*
Bailey Delane
Bailey Delane - 4 hours ago
I suck at all English and spelling subject's
Rafael Garza
Rafael Garza - 4 hours ago
I'm not asin
。G A C H A D O O R 。
。G A C H A D O O R 。 - 4 hours ago
thatweirdfangirl - 4 hours ago
I’m just w e l s h. No in between
KIRITO - 5 hours ago
I had the some problem, ofc I'm not Korean but I related to this video and I don't care cuz I'm grown up and also a introvert otaku who wants to focus on myself and I suppose everything will work out and I will gonna work on my language too
End - 5 hours ago
I know this is random but i like her to sing me to sleep, hahaha
27 Paperart
27 Paperart - 5 hours ago
I went through almost exactly the same experience. I am now 13, my dad's the son of 2 teochew speaking vietnam war immigrants, was born in Paris and still fluent in teochew and mandarin (can't write or read though) english and french. My mom's indonesian/ cantonese origin, she's fluent in bahasa, english (kinda?) and some broken mandarin and french.
Now back to me, I grew up here in switzerland, used to be probably as good as any chinese toddler when i was living with my grandparents in france until I came here, started going to a bilingual school so my 4 years old brain had to basically process 4 languages at once .My dad spoke teochew to me , I spoke mandarin to my mom (whom herself was basically learning from me) and french and english at school depending on the day. And as if that wasn't hard enough, my brother was born and he spoke nada. So for like 4 years I was speaking like this crazy language mix until I realized my parents where speaking english to EACH OTHER then I just switched completely.
And for a while now I've had this constant fear and shame to visiting my grandma because of a language barrier that doesn't even EXIST (my grandma's owned a vietnamese takeout in france for 30 years now but I'm incapable of speaking to her in any other language than teochew, so I don't)
Anyways, I've been ultra dedicated to learn mandarin lately so if anyone knows of any good chinnese series or anything I'd love to know
soul2blade - 5 hours ago
This story hit way too close to home. I'm still in that type of situation and its bloody hard to get through. More so when expectation are expected of you.
Noa Arad
Noa Arad - 5 hours ago
To:Lucky 24

My mom side:I dont have a grandpa
My dad side:I dont have a grandma
David Cho
David Cho - 5 hours ago
i can relate to this on a personal level, ESPECIALLY the language barrier. as someone who is ethnically korean myself, it's really comfortable and reassuring knowing that others are going or went though the same thing :)
Elena UwU
Elena UwU - 5 hours ago
I'm from Indonesia. I can speak English clearly. I gave up on learning Chinese. The shame keep crawling on my back.
grazia veron
grazia veron - 5 hours ago
I can relate. My experience is a bit different. I'm french and one of my grandpa is Italian. But I never got to learn Italian and I don't know a lot of things about the country and the culture. The thing is my name and surname are Italians so people think I'm bilingual and everything wich can lead to some embarrassing situations..
François Coupal
François Coupal - 5 hours ago
Stradling two cultures (or more) can be daunting. Parents will try to pass on their likes and dislikes, their languages and their culture to their children, because that's what they know and that how they act. It can be as much involuntary (they can only basically teach what they know) or deliberate (they want their children to SUCCEED). Sometimes the reason behind it is negative, but that's another subject matter.
Trying to teach children a language for the sole purpose of communication with foreign relatives can be a blessing or a curse, depending on circumstances. If the child is unwilling or unable, the failure can be crushing.
However, this is not a reason NOT to try: children learn languages much more easily than adults, for a myriad of reasons. If there is ever a chance to pas on cultures and languages (both are linked in my view) the best time to do it is childhood. It may not succeed or have the intended effect it does, but there is very little downside of having the basics, fluency or outright mastery of additional languages.
If we take Emi's experience, would her childhood been BETTER being completely cut-off from Korean language and culture? Can't speak for her, but that would imply having her complete familly being utterly unrelatable for all of her childhood, besides her parents. I think she would agree that even a passing knowledge of Korean allowed her to know, relate, talk, however flawed it may seem, with a lot of people she loved then and loves now is worth her internal struggles with it, growing up and as an adult.
A few links to those parents considering raising children in a multiple language household. Start with those, search for more:
Absinthe - 5 hours ago
not only old Korean people, old people from anywhere of Asia like to stare at you if you look different from the "traditional-way-to-look".
FuzzyLegs - 5 hours ago
This video gave me a smile because I’ve dealt with this being a Latino. I barely speak Spanish and can understand majority of it but can’t write if my life depends on it. Only know it because my grandmother at one point in my life has my brother and I speak to her in Spanish. Even if I got to a Latin market, I’ll get stares like they know as if I’m not 100% Spanish or something lol
Della - 5 hours ago
If you act and dress like Asian, you'll be called FOB. If you dye your hair blonde or act and dress more like American, you'll be called whitewashed. The funny thing is that the ppl who say that are both the same person. But a lot of ppl are kind to accept Asian cultures, etc.
Mosey - 5 hours ago
Thanks for sharing your experience! I found it somewhat relatable, being that my family is French and I don’t speak a word of it. It’s gotten to the point of resentment of all Acadian culture, and you’ve inspired me to try setting that aside. c:
Stinky Rat
Stinky Rat - 5 hours ago
I’m a British Bengali and this girl was like “you can’t be mOzlEym and WhYte”

*im not white at all*
Sofia Bracero
Sofia Bracero - 5 hours ago
My entire family is Spanish. I know very little about any Hispanic culture, and I can’t speak any Spanish. I’m still very young. But whenever I visit Florida or Puerto Rico, I feel so out of place because I cant speak or understand any Spanish. I’m studying Spanish right now so I won’t be struggling in the future.
You Dad Is never gonna come back
Way,Way back in the 2nd grade,I took a spelling bee that I always got an 100% on.On that day,I got an 88% and I waas bawling my eyes out.I feel you.
Jiwei Saw
Jiwei Saw - 5 hours ago
I understand everything you said in the video. Though I'm having a bit of a different situation. I wasnt lucky enough to have parents who understood english. I always had to translate for my parents from young age and I started resenting my native language after my brother got sick. Then I had to translate medical terms and legal terms at the age of 12. And I'm still doing it till this day cause my dad cant let go. It's really a tough situation because I do have alot of chinese pride but when i'm still not good at chinese and they say it's "a shame" that you cant speak better it really sux because honestly I dont want to get better just to help write emails to lawyers. It's honestly a hard thing to go through. Just keep going. That's the only thing we can do. Sorry. It turned to a bit of a rant. Going to therapy right now. O____O
Iwaizumi Hajime
Iwaizumi Hajime - 6 hours ago
I speak Malay

Influence in English

Force to learn France

Learn Korean and Japanese 0
Yosh Mite
Yosh Mite - 6 hours ago
I'm so glad this video came up in my recommended. I can totally relate to this
sat3rday animations
sat3rday animations - 6 hours ago
I'm super white raised by a Hispanic grandpa so needless to say I got my ass beat alot
lou - 6 hours ago
My Mom's Mexican and french
while my dad is super white and has German and Irish genes
Its really hard when people question you for looking "too dark" or "too pale" and my mom and sisters and fluent and immersed in French, and Spanish, and German- while I'm the pale Mexican that never tans and is only fluent in English. Having your parents feel embarrassed around relatives when you can barely manage a few words that all of your family and cousins are having no problem doing. Its good to know that I'm not the only one though- not knowing your culture of your ancestors is okay.. its your personal lifestyle and your family should love you no matter what.
Michelle Frandsen Smith
Michelle Frandsen Smith - 6 hours ago
me: *friends with every race on that board*
me: *also lives in a very white area* ??????
Crystal Wonderland
Crystal Wonderland - 6 hours ago
I can kinda relate but in a different way, I am Asian american but I can speak my native language fluently. BUT thats because English is my SECOND language. One of my friend is like keep talking about my accent and it does kinda get annoying over time. I asked all of my other friends and they said I dont have an accent. But idk if they are just lying to make me feel better or what. When I first started to learn English, ppl would bully me, there were two girls in school who would make fun of me for my accent and stuff. But over the years, it has gotten way better. At the same time, when my English gotten better, my Chinese has gotten worse. I speak Chinese at home but my writing in Chinese has gotten worse and I often forget to how to write a word. And now I am kinda afraid that maybe I am just bad at two languages and not excellent on either one. But I am trying to catch up during the summer!
Caleb Spells
Caleb Spells - 6 hours ago
I can not relate but i still really liked this video
Lucide Lucie
Lucide Lucie - 6 hours ago
Technically the title shouldn't be "Asian-American identity crisis" it should be "My Korean Insecurities." Or something like that.
H I m a n
H I m a n - 7 hours ago
Me half American Mexican:
My mom: I raised you like an American
My dad: You’re Mexican
Me: And my life is not that complicated-
Susana Jiang
Susana Jiang - 7 hours ago
Me too😭
Glitz Moon Art
Glitz Moon Art - 7 hours ago
My youngest brother looks as if he's white but he's actually mexican and even if me and other brother get suntan he stays same 😅
Héloïse B
Héloïse B - 7 hours ago
I can kinda relate, I’m part French and I lost all my fluency when I got older and I usually respond to my mom English when she talks to me in French and I never forgot how to speak it because I took French at school (& still am) but I lost most of my French and everyone thought it was a shame when I used to not speak it too
Cosmic Spikez
Cosmic Spikez - 7 hours ago
Damn this is like my whole asian(chinese)-mauritian identity crisis.also best part was when you mentioned your brother staring back
Kurotoshiro - 7 hours ago
People : Be American, speak english (in this case)
Also people : I can’t speak my native language !
Maybe, people should realize your native language is not always the same as your parents. When you grow up somewhere your native language is the language of that place.
Same with culture, if you parents moved to a foreign country and you grew up there, you don’t have the same culture as your parents.
(Exception for expats who put their child in international school, but even there their culture is different than the parents)
It’s nice if you want to explore your roots, it’s a big plus for your life. But just stop thinking you’re chinese/korean/french/german/etc if you grew up in America. You’re not. You’re American.
When I see banana or bounty used (or white washed for this usage) I’m feeling sad and angry about the future. We’re very far from stoping racism
sarah nguyen
sarah nguyen - 7 hours ago
nightsacked - 7 hours ago
How I felt with my Spanish culture. I hated talking in Spanish and I still do. I'm fluent in it but if I have the chance to avoid it I would
Ryan Junus
Ryan Junus - 7 hours ago
totally relate like holy shit bruh everyone tells me im so good at speaking English in Indonesia but SUCC at Indonesian bruh
my first language is English since I go to an International School at Kindergarden...when things went downhill at middle school
I was separate from everyone else and often bullied for not understanding anything.
I used to walk up to random children and ask them if they wanted to be friends with me but it always ends with
'kamu siapa?' Who are you, or ' apa? aku gak ngerti' What? I don't understand.
this went on for years until finally someone that can understand English...I would not've made this many friends without the ones I started my Indonesia isn't that bad and I can finally talk normally with other people. Ur video made me realise that I have to get over with my shame someday and press on, it turns out i'm not alone. Thanks Emily!
Snow Don Pinoy
Snow Don Pinoy - 7 hours ago
This is the most relatable video ever. My parents spoke tagalog and I speak in english, I can speak tagalog, but I'm also too ashamed to fail speaking it.
James Short
James Short - 7 hours ago
I think many people can relate to this in some way even if it isn't related to their ethnicity. For example, I'm a white guy in high school, and I feel a really heavy disconnection between myself and most others here. See, I'm growing up in the south, but unlike the super southern people around me, I was raised differently. Most people around here do things a certain way, but my family doesn't, if that makes sense. Everyone is proud to be the same. But when I look at everyone dressing and acting exactly the same, I'm repelled by it. They are erasing their individuality by doing this. It's not just my fellow students, but the adults too. There's just such an unhealthy pride of being the same. A fear of being criticized for being different. Around here people ridicule those who are different. Then there's me, I'm a guy with long hair who wears flannels and band shirts and plays guitar and listens to fusion and prog metal, etc. I'm an outlier even among the gamers.
Over time I've become more at peace with my individuality, bc the world is full of people who are different, and they should be accepted. Even if I am a little uncomfortable of being different, I'm really thankful to have my freewill and unique interests and mess.
Sorry for the long comment but like if you can relate!!
sarah nguyen
sarah nguyen - 7 hours ago
2:00 *sigh* I wish Emily :,( (no one in my school well in my grade likes K-pop)
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